One of the hardest parts about being a Mother is not comparing yourself to other Mothers. It's near impossible, we are all guilty of it at one time or another. I do it all the freaking time and if you compare yourself to me and feel bad you NEED to STOP!!!
Yes my children are happy and healthy.
Every day is not perfect in my house by any means. My floors get dirty. I have piles of laundry that never seem to end. I find food in random places. There are toys spread across my house; little trails of where my children have been.
I can get so frustrated at myself on a regular basis for not being able to "keep up" with everything that I have to do and I know I’m not alone.
I have been thinking where did this idea that everything needs to be in order and perfect come from?
Who am I really trying to impress?
No one, everyone, myself...
I believe social media plays a huge part because you have "insight" into other peoples lives in a way we never did before. For instance; you see a picture of a friend and her house is clean and you think, my house isn’t that clean I must not be doing a good job. You see a picture of a Mother all dressed up with lipstick on taking her kids to the park or the store as you’re drinking you third cup of tea in the same leggings you have had on for two days and you can't even remember the last time you brushed or washed your hair because it's been in a messy bun that now looks like a nest.
I read these blog posts about how blessed these women feel being at home and their snuggled up next to a fire with their children while they play the banjo and paint and I look over and here's my kid in time out for the 5th time in the past hour for smacking his brother in the face or screaming at me, and I think where did I go wrong? Then I realize...I haven't. This is a glimpse into these peoples lives it is not the whole picture.
If you are a Mother and you say your house is clean all the time, that your kid never yells or you never get upset with them you are full of it!! I’m calling you out right now because it’s a dang lie.
Yes, raising children is one of the most rewarding and magical experiences you can have. You love your children more than you can even explain; it's beyond love. But they can also drive you nuts. You can lose yourself in trying to manage it all. The house, the husband (partner), the job or lack there of, the dishes, laundry, grocery shopping, butt wiping, the screaming, crying, diaper changing, nursing or bottle feeding, the napping or lack there of, the constant battle to get ready for bed, sweeping the floor for the 3rd time that day because you don't have a dog that eats all the food off the floor that your child throws or if you do the dog barely makes a dent.
It can be exhausting trying to keep up with it all.
I say enough! It is not about perfection. It’s about connection. We all need to stop the madness! The house can be messy if that means you have some time to actually enjoy your children and your life.
We need to enjoy this time with them without being frustrated that our house is a mess or we didn't have time to look picture perfect that day.
Even if our house is messy and we are on day three of workout clothes we haven’t worked out in, we all are amazing Mother’s in our own way.
We need to celebrate what makes us great.
I am an amazing Mother.
I am enough.
You are enough too.
STOP feeling less than. If you love your kids and let them know you love them and are doing the best you can then you are doing great!!